We all have an image or an idea of what we want our life to look like; whether it’s a successful career, living a healthy lifestyle or financial freedom. With these thoughts in mind, we are unknowingly manifesting those desires.
However, it doesn’t stop there and that’s what we tend to forget. Just voicing your desires out loud will not get you what you want out of life. Don’t get me wrong, there are many reasons why people don’t follow through with their aspirations; setbacks, disadvantages, constantly being dealt a shitty hand, I understand. But for most people – it’s laziness.
You can’t just visualize and then go eat a sandwichJim Carrey
I understand that life can certainly beat you down. Shit, I’ve experienced it a couple of times over the years. I know the feeling of being in a particular circumstance where you don’t see the what if and finding the upside of it all. But I always tell myself that God doesn’t put me through anything that I can’t overcome.
… I don’t know anything in this world that’s worth fighting for coming easy.Tweet
It’s about fighting to get to the other side and no, it’s not easy. But I don’t know anything in this world that’s worth fighting for coming easy. If you’re someone who’s currently going through a rough patch and is looking for some motivation to get you through, this is for you.
First, don’t let your present situation be the reason why you aren’t going after your dreams; that should be the motivation to keep you going. Your circumstance is not the reason why you’re not progressing.
You have to be willing to make sacrifices; and without them you will never be able to achieve the success you desire. It’s about your resilience in overcoming times of adversity.
Manifesting is all about attracting the desires we actively focus on. Our mind is a powerful muscle that allows us to materialize those dreams into reality. But without consistent hard work and believing you can acquire those desires, you will not get very far. Here are three things I’m speaking into existence:
How you gonna win when you ain’t right withinLauryn Hill
Mental wellness is so important for me to achieve because it’s the key to living a well-balanced life. It’s the prerequisite to accomplishing anything in life. Our mind plays a vital role in how we approach and handle our emotions, stress, and make decisions.
Personally, I sometimes have trouble with this. I tend to let minor setbacks defeat me longer than I should and have found myself floundering in negative thinking. I also used to get in these spaces where I felt like throwing in the towel just to avoid more disappointment.
I quickly learned that it’s always easier to settle and be complacent, than to fight to get the life I dreamt of.
Stop putting energy into the wrong things and places. Find better ways of allocating your time and put positive energy into that. Remember, whatever you put out into the universe will always find its way back to you.Tweet
Whatever desires are in your heart, make sure it’s coming from a genuine place because how we feel on the inside is a direct reflection of what we look like on the outside.
Career and Success
You know your desires are larger than life when you get that excited, jittery feeling in your body. What’s awesome about that feeling is that it never goes away. For me, it’s a constant reminder of why I’m putting in the necessary work to get where I want to be.
It’s what constantly keeps me driven and confident, because there are times when I look for people around me for guidance and realize that what I do can’t be done as well as me. I always feel like my vision is even bigger than myself. Isn’t that what it’s supposed to feel like?
In order to have a rhythm, you think it through in your head and execute it in real life.Pastor T.D Jakes
Have clear intentions about all that you desire.
What really helps me is using S.M.A.R.T. Goals. Specific is describing your desired result, measurable will determine how you track your progress of each goal you set. To achieve/attain my goals, I look for resources that I may need, what relevant training I can use, and what required experience I need.
Realistic goals are able to align with your values and strengths so that you can hold yourself accountable for how consistent you are. Lastly, time-bound is all about meeting your deadline.
Know that you deserve it:
You are the master of your own destiny.
You have to believe and trust that whatever desires you’re putting out into the universe, was made especially for you. If you’re constantly doubting yourself, you will never be able to reach your long-term goal.
We all have moments of doubt, but it’s what we do with it. To avoid doubts and negativity, I listen to morning motivational messages on YouTube, podcasts, and sermons that reinforce my confidence in the vision I’ve created for myself.
Don’t just say it, do it:
How committed are you in developing your craft?
Take the initiative, establish a routine, take smart risks, open yourself to opportunities and do the necessary work!
This was a big lesson for me because just saying I wanted it and not working on it every day showed me that I just didn’t want it bad enough. It was a hard and uncomfortable pill to swallow because it exposed my laziness.
Money & Wealth
There’s this belief that having an abundance of money doesn’t equate to happiness – this is partially true. Why? When you have a substantial amount of money, it all comes down to what you do with it.
When you have a successful career with equal earnings, your cost of living is balanced. You don’t have trouble managing your financial obligations and you’re able to enjoy your personal life as you see fit.
When you’re in a position to capitalize on your earnings and you’re not using it purposefully, your happiness decreases.
Figuring out your why’s:
Why do you want financial freedom? How do you plan on achieving it? It’s important to know the reasons why you want financial freedom because it takes a lot of discipline.
My why isn’t directly related to money itself, but more so what I can produce with an abundance of money. It would give me better opportunities to travel and explore the bounds of my goals and to create open channels of communication full of diverse people. This led me to passive income:
Passive Income/Side Hustles:
Side hustles are equivalent to passive income. It’s a way to earn money on the side while working your full-time job. It’s suggested that your side hustle be something that you’re passionate and purposeful about.
There are so many options to consider; renting out your property, Uber/Lyft, earning interest from high interest savings accounts, investing in markets, starting a blog, YouTube channel, and/or using your social media accounts to profit using affiliate marketing – (a way of earning a percentage by generating traffic to a targeted site).
If you’re consistent, passionate and patient, you’re on your way to making some serious bank.
Setting short term financial goals leads you to long term financial success. Establishing my side hustles was the first step, but to increase my financial building plan, I needed to focus on how to become more financially responsible.
I didn’t want to be one of those people who made a shit ton of money and had nothing to show for it, so I planned. It’s not the easiest thing to do considering I’m constantly taking lessons to be better with my finances. I think the best way to start, like anything else is to start small.
This is the hardest part – deciding on how much you want to save in x amount of time based on my incomes, compiling debt/expenses that I’ve accumulated, adding them up and reviewing the savings that I already have.
Realizing that I was carelessly spending on food, uber, and going out often, I made the decision to cut it all off and put myself on a strict budget.
- Spend only what you need and optimize your savings. For the first couple of months or so, it’s going to be uncomfortable. I’m still in that phase but bit by bit, I’m realizing that living a minimalistic life works best for me.
- I strongly recommend financial literacy workshops and videos. They are truly helpful if you’re someone who doesn’t want to pay for a financial advisor. Some tips that have been useful:
- Pay off all your debt because they tend to carry high interest rates and can result in penalties.
- Invest wisely and take calculated risks.50/30/20 Rule: Open a savings account and save at least 20%of what you earn after taxes, 50% on your necessities, and 30%on things you may want.Spend only 30% of your credit card limit.
- If you so happen to spend over 30%, pay it off as soon possible and be as consistent as possible with payments. It’s suggested to enroll in autopay if you’re someone who sometimes forgets.
These tips and lessons have truly helped me focus and prioritize the dreams that I’ve set for myself. I’m learning that there is never really a finish line, however the more focus and driven I am, the clearer my vision becomes.
I’ve seen a drastic change in the way I think, in the things I do, and how I see the people around me. I no longer procrastinate, it’s never a choice of me choosing between working on my goals and going out and I just don’t hold value to a lot of distractions that I’ve had in the past.
Waking up to thought-provoking discussions and motivational speeches/sermons have helped me unconsciously focus in and manifest the visions I’ve set for myself. I’m not where I want to be yet, but I have no doubt in my mind that I will get there, and I truly wish the same for you.